Fidelity to the Self

Monday, April 30th, 2012 7

This is me, right before my birthday party kicked off this past weekend. I love this photograph for so many reasons. I love the bowling shoes — they scream vintage fun to me. I love my striped socks and how they look with said bowling shoes. I love that I’m sitting on the lane to take the photo I imagined in my mind, not caring if others around me think I’m being weird. And, I love that this photograph captures a moment in which I listened to the whispers of my heart, those longings that want to PLAY, and threw myself a bowling party to ring in 40!

I’m learning that one of the greatest gifts of growing older is the settling in to authenticity. I recently read a definition of self-confidence by Michael Mahoney in which he first discusses the Latin root of confidence as confidere which means “fidelity.” Thus, self-confidence is a fidelity to the self. Having self-confidence is holding a faithfulness to one’s Self, being loyal and true to who you are. I don’t think gifts get better than that — to feel more and more like the person I have always wanted to be. To wear striped socks and bowling shoes, to throw myself a “kid party,” to play and paint and take photographs. To have the self-confidence, the fidelity to mySelf, to be exactly who I am. These are birthday presents I’m treasuring.

7 Responses

  1. Corinna says:

    I LOVE this picture and I LOVE the idea (and the reality) of becoming more and more like the people we want to be/know ourselves to be. It is indeed a gift, as are you.

  2. You planned those socks to go with those bowling shoes, didn’t you? 😉 I love the idea of fidelity to one’s true self. Happy 40th, again!

  3. Debra says:

    I love this so very much! xo

  4. Emily says:

    I think my 40s will be the decade when I stop trying to find the next bear to wrestle and start looking around and breathing in all that is right in front of me. Completely liberating and certainly part of fidelity. Well said — and great shoes.

  5. Melissa says:

    That photo is wonderful! So glad that your birthday celebration was full of good things.

  6. Deb M says:

    I saw your photo on Shutter Sisters and loved it so much. I love it even more when I read what you wrote about it because I wondered about the shot and how you took it. I love that you sat on the floor and took it. I love that youre embracing forty, because every year is a gift , regardless of the decade we’re celebrating. Happy, happy birthday!

    • Meghan says:

      Hi Deb — Thanks so much for making all the hops from Shutter Sisters to find me and my blog. I really do appreciate it. Thank you for the kind comments–each one means alot to me.

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