He’s Still Got It
The start to the year also marks Tony’s birthday. Suffice it to say that Tony isn’t big on celebrating his “special day.” I’m not sure if he doesn’t like the attention and focus all on him, or if it’s a vestige of his birthday occurring after the brouhaha of the holidays. Perhaps he grew accustomed to it being a bit of an oversight or combo-with-Christmas kind of birthday. Whatever it may be, Tony never likes to do much to celebrate. I, on the other hand, am a celebrator. I think it is important to mark both the milestones and the small victories as we travel through this life. But since it is his day, I reign in what I want to do for him on his birthday and let him set the pace.
Since it was still winter break and we were both “off school,” we had the luxury of not having to work and got to spend the day together. After my prodding and asking perhaps a million times what he wanted to do for his birthday, Tony decided he wanted to go out for lunch and get cheeseburgers, and then see a matinee movie. So, we headed downtown, enjoyed some Five Guys, and went to see Hitchcock (the movie is great if you haven’t seen it — Anthony Hopkins is a fantastic Alfred). It feels so decadent to see a movie in the middle of the day on a Wednesday. As we left the movie and started for home — Tony wanted to make soup for dinner and hang out at home for the evening — we had some fun goofing around as we walked back to the car.
As we passed some interesting architecture, Tony stopped to snap a few photos on his iPhone. I caught him ‘gramming, as they say. This is one of those little things that I love about Tony. Over the past few years, I have grown into a photographer and have developed a dedicated practice of my craft. Photography has grown to be the single thing I do the majority of the time (besides work). While much of this has been apart from Tony and is “my thing,” Tony has gotten involved in iPhoneography and using Intstagram. He is quite fond of Hipstamatic, and most often processes in black and white (you can follow him — his handle on IG is underdog30). What I love about Tony Instagramming is that this is something that we can share. It is so much fun being out together and seeing similar things we want to Instagram (often with one of us “calling” a shot ours!), as well as seeing what he captures while we are out doing our own thing and not together. Although I think it is critically important for each person in a couple to have their own interests, activities, and identities, I also think it’s vital to have things in common. It makes me happy that a small thing like iPhoneography and Instagram is something we can share.
As we continued our walk to the car, Tony had a spring in his step. I’m not even sure I remember what brought on his jumping into the air, but what I do hold on to is our laughter and giggling and enjoying being together. After all these many years, he still makes me laugh. We still have fun together. Yes, we love one another, but we like each other, too. He’s still got it.
Happy Birthday, Monk. Lyo? xoxo