On Friendship

Since coming home from my trip to California, I’ve been reflecting a great deal on friendship. I am so grateful for the time I spent with friends on this trip, connecting, having deep conversations, laughing, dreaming, and really witnessing one another. I felt and continue to feel so filled up in my heart and soul from these moments of togetherness. I’ve also noticed my desire to keep those connections going and to make time to nurture my other friendships. I am someone who so longs for connection and belonging, often feeling lonely in my local community. Yet, I get lost in the stress and overwhelm of the day-to-day tasks and work, so much so that I retreat, I don’t reach out, I don’t pick up the phone. I am realizing that I do have connections and friendships, they just might be spread across this county and spill over borders. I’m seeing more clearly that I need to dust myself off from my lonely pity party and be proactive in reaching out. I need to embrace my former 13 year-old self and fall back in love with chatting on the phone.

PX70_Cool_DebMeTutuAs you know, I adore the writing of David Whyte. I love his thoughts on friendship…

“The ultimate touchstone of friendship is not improvement, neither of the other nor of the self: the ultimate touchstone is witness, the privilege of having been seen by someone and the equal privilege of being granted the sight of the essence of another, to have walked with them and to have believed in them, and sometimes just to have accompanied them for however brief a span, on a journey impossible to accomplish alone.” — David Whyte, from Readers’ Circle Essay, “Friendship”

Yes. This journey of life is impossible to travel alone. Much love, friends. xoxo

14 Responses

  1. Vanessa says:

    You have my number and I loved talking with you last month!
    xo

  2. mosey (kim) says:

    I love this. And I am very much the same as you – I love connecting, but often retreat under my own little umbrella and don’t reach out as much as I should. And then feel lonely as a result. The internet/blogs have opened up new communities to us, but it’s a mixed bag sometimes in that when we don’t have the time/willingness to be online, we feel more alone. Always reminds me that I need to focus as much on my local community as my online community. xx

    • Meghan says:

      I’m glad to know I’m not alone in the retreating, Kim. I hope we can all feel encouraged to reach out more. So great to connect with you last week and looking forward to more. xoxo

  3. i need to be better about phone chats. can’t wait to see you again ….

  4. Debra says:

    I so needed to see this photo today. Miss you and can’t wait until next time. xoxo

  5. Kris says:

    Anytime you’re in Texas, the fence gate is open. Ok, I don’t really have a fence gate, but I open a mean bottle of beer! 🙂

  6. beautiful post meghan and oh-so-true! i’ve been working on building my own “artist’s circle” here in philadelphia over the past year or so for this very reason! Connection is so important, and the ones we’ve made through the past two years have been amazing! Hope to see you again soon! xo

  7. Tamar says:

    what a great post Meghan. we all have those self pity parties sometimes and linger on the not haves rather than the haves. And when we do look at what we have, we are faced with possibilities, friendships and many other things. lots of love xxx

  8. Loving this post today, Meghan. During this difficult time in my life I am finding myself disappointed my some friends but so heartened by other friendships that I want to invest more time in. Thanks for the reminder.

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